I have had a desire in my heart for intimacy and admittedly there’s an attraction to the opposite sex. This is natural, as far as I know, but I cannot help but feel like I am superficial. I’ll look at a girl and think: “Wow, she is pretty!” without thinking about her soul or character. It seems like my flesh comes in when I focus on the easy part of love, which is finding someone attractive and acting on my passion. What makes me realize just how foolish I’m being is when I start to think about the character of that person. I see their immodest dress, what they talk about, and how they act.
Suddenly the initial attraction I had for them seems to dwindle into a black hole because I realize that if I was with this girl, I would start being insecure about her dress and her actions, or we would just flat out disagree about how to live life. And I know from past experience with my first relationship how this ends: your insecurity comes across as controlling to the other and she fights back, and you have opposing goals in life. You two get angry and consider breaking up or taking a break. You start having communication issues and can’t seem to understand each other’s hearts. The passion that your love once had from initial attraction and similar interests just can’t withstand that kind of pressure. Read More »